The sub-sub dynamic, letters from a sub-sub relationship. Pt. 2

The second letter, from the other person in the relationship:


"Before getting back with her, I spent a little over a year with a Mistress. Even though we started out with some rules, as the relationship was progressing, she disregarded any laid boundaries/rules/punishments. I requested certain forms of play many times, but the Mistress would not consider my request. Play sessions soon became infrequent and less kinky. The D/s dynamic became lax and very vanilla. All in all, I was not satisfied with the relationship and it caused me to base what I knew about the D/s dynamic of BDSM on it.

My current fiance/now Mistress knew about my previous relationship before we got back together, and although I did my best not to request for her to take control of me, I eventually mentioned my small need...

The sub-sub dynamic, letters from a sub-sub relationship. Pt. 1

This was a testimonial written by my friend, and future sister-in-law. I hope it can shed more light than I have on the complications they have endured of a sub-sub relationship.

"Since the journey of further immersing myself within the BDSM community, I have continued to feel overwhelmed. Whether it be just the labels, and trying to define myself within them, I have felt like the new kid in school mid-way through the school year. I have a bad habit of just throwing myself head long into new things, and have never had any trouble with grasping everything fairly soon and feeling like I've conquered everything within a week.

Not this time!...

Relationships 2: The sub-sub dynamic.

 **EDITED: This has been edited from it's original form for additional clarity. I still use Dominant as a noun, as it has caused much confusion recently, but I'll be honest, I don't really care. If you can't understand my meaning, I'm sorry.**

Recently my sister asked me to write my thoughts of the sub-sub dynamic in relationships and the issues that can arise.

I've put a lot of thought into this and without great conclusions, I'm hoping as I write this I will have an epiphany.

I'd like to start with a quote from A.M. Benis about the submissive personality:

In these types the trait A is profoundly suppressed, so that whatever the circumstances they tend not exhibit aggressive behavior in social situations. They can exhibit the aggressive A-rage, but this is very rare. Compliant submissive types typically tend to be very introverted and seek a life style involving little responsibility and much protection. Sexually promiscuous individuals are very vulnerable and have a strong tendency to masochistic behavior.

While I believe there is a larger range for this personality type (I'm sure Bines does too), it gives us a starting point...